Teaching your children by example through your own actions is the best way to instill good habits in your children. Children learn by copying the behaviors they see around them, so be your best self around your children and give them a thoughtful and well-mannered role model to emulate. Again remember: the best way to teach is by example!
1. Teaching by example: Don’t be Afraid to Cry
A lot of children, and even some adults, may think that crying is something that only babies or girls do, but letting it all out from time to time with a good cry shouldn’t be considered gender specific. It’s incredibly cathartic to shed a few tears and display the emotion that is often internalized for too long. Don’t be afraid to occasionally cry in front of your kids, just remain aware that if you are really distressed or depressed then you should seek help and support from an adult as to not burden little ones with things that are out of the realm of their understanding.
We all face struggles in life. Hiding all of ones struggles from children can make them think that life is just one big party and always an easy ride. Parents should be teaching by example! Don’t go into too much detail with children to the point that it makes them begin to worry about grown-up problems; but taking the time to explain that things are not always easy, will set them up well later on in life when they enter the real world and the work force.
3. PDA is okay
Public displays of affection may embarrass some kids, but letting them know that in loving relationships sharing a little kiss or a cuddle is one way of showing that you care for another person, is vital to help them become well-adjusted adults that thrive in their future relationships.
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4. Exercise Often
Maintaining your body through exercise also improves your mind and general outlook. When your kids see you regularly exercise, they take it as a given that it is an expected part of daily routines, and when they grow up it will be second nature to get in a good amount of exercise as often as possible.
5. Don’t Overspend
Although it can be beneficial to shield kids from money woes, showing them how to budget and practice good spending habits is a vital life skill. Teach by example! When you can’t afford something, whether it’s something they want, or something for the family, explain to your kids that you have to work to earn money and you only have a limited amount for luxuries.
They will soon understand that people must put in the effort and work to have money in their pocket. cost, how much is your rent, how much is your car payment, so that they aren’t flopped into adulthood after high school or college unprepared.
6. Give to Charity
Giving regularly to charity is a fantastic way for children to build empathy and better understand the world in which they live. Take some time to sit down with your children and run through the different charities you could donate to as a family and let them help pick one out.
Ask them to articulate why they want to choose their charity, as it’s a great opportunity to express feelings of empathy and appreciate the circumstances of others. You could also arrange to volunteer and if possible, take your children along, maybe not to volunteer, but at least to see you in action for a little time.
7. Be Studious
It is essential to instill a love of learning in your children from a young age to encourage them to make it a lifelong pursuit. Remember: Teach by example! Read books, not on a device, but the real deal; so that your children can see what you’re doing and begin to copy you. Join your local library and when your kids pick out their chosen books, take some out too. When your children ask you questions, take the time to research the answers together.
You could also encourage them to create ‘factsheets’ and projects about the things they are interested. These don’t just have to be in written form, get creative with them and teach them how to use PowerPoint, or simply gather up resources from around the house to perform a presentation for the family.